Women will talk to each other about absolutely raw physical experiences, such as giving birth, so why is masturbation usually off the table? I’m a healthy, sexual woman. I’m not ashamed to discuss my sex life with people I’m comfortable with. In fact, talking about sex with my close female friends was something of a […]
Infidelity is corrosive not only in how it eats away at any future but how it also eats up the past. …And after the first minute, when I say, Is this about her, and he says, No, it’s about you, we do not speak of her. — “Unspeakable,” Sharon Olds How do you get over […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana, I am a 24-year-old virgin who has been single for about 99% of my life. While I […]
What’s the point of being intimate with someone if you’re just going to check out? Over the last decade, I’ve surrendered to some humbling realizations. I almost can’t believe that I am now living a fulfilling life with a beautiful family that I helped create. But I am. Before this time in my life, though, […]
Being treated like a project is exhausting. A new study published in the Journal of Sex Research has found that men derive a sense of “achievement” by bringing women to orgasm. But not just any achievement – not the sense of satisfaction that comes from giving someone else pleasure – but the kind that comes […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana, My husband gets upset every time I use the word mansplaining. His main issue is that it’s not […]
I’d like nothing more than to hit a pause button and insert an extra five years just like this one into my life. Dating a younger man could be a perfect way to do that. On my fourth day in Buenos Aires I decide to go on a guided tour of the city center. When I […]
Bisexuals also earn less than their straight peers, and research suggests that discrimination plays a part. Many myths and stereotypes exist about bisexuality — and they’re generally negative. Despite being the largest population within the LGBT category, bisexuals tend to be seen as outsiders in both lesbian/gay and heterosexual communities. While you may think bisexual people would have an easier time […]
