For those considering IVF, much like becoming a parent, nothing can prepare you for this journey and everyone’s journey is different. For the first year of my child’s cellular existence, he lived in a deep freezer. We let him multiply a bit, and then stuck him in like a Klondike bar. Don’t worry, he wasn’t […]
It would still be my body making the baby, it just wouldn’t be my DNA. More and more, it seems that honesty and openness are the keys to finding peace and acceptance. And for many women, infertility is one of those topics that is beginning to come out of a dark, secret place. While in […]
Did you know that the baby you gave to my family would be born into the greatest love? For a long time, I believed this wasn’t my story. I started this letter to you a year ago, quietly and in my private journal. After all, I have two healthy sons with my husband through traditional […]
Your friend, sister, or sister-in-law wants to have a child and her best chance is through egg donor IVF. Do you do it? It’s a question you don’t often ask yourself, but when you do the internal debate can last a long time. A friend is infertile, they have had nine cycles of IVF, they […]
The people arguing that children deserve better than being raised by my partner and me are the same people arguing that families on welfare are lazy and selfish. It’s not about children deserving the best in life. It’s about children being a commodity of which people like us are unworthy. For months after my partner […]
Even without doubt, it’s OK to wonder “What if…?” There are many Sliding Doors moments in life. Some you realize are happening, while others pass by unnoticed and only much later do you understand how profound those decisions were. Choosing to be childfree was not a moment that slipped me by. It was instead a wrenching cerebral […]
Queer parents and anyone who uses non-traditional methods to build families, whether that means sperm or egg donation, IVF, surrogacy, or adoption, complicate the question of what it means to be a parent, what it means to be a family, what it means to be a mother. I have never wanted to give birth. I […]
