As women find their voices to say I am not OK with this, men will have to do the introspective work of turning that entitlement into respect. I have to hand it to my partner. He called Joe Biden’s conduct with women months ago, long before Lucy Flores, Amy Lappos, Caitlyn Caruso, and D.J. Hill […]
It may be the only way to get them to listen. With so many conversations about sexual harassment and abuse taking place in public and in private, it can get exhausting for feminists to have to re-articulate the same points over and over. In such conversations, those who are fearful of the wave of #MeToo […]
If women are going to progress past misogyny, we have to stop succeeding at any cost. I’m an ardent Hillary Clinton supporter. I stood in line for hours to hear her speak during the 2016 campaign; my daughter took a selfie with her after the event. I voted for her proudly in 2008 and again […]
It makes zero sense to me why we continually belittle women in a conversation that they have been trying to have with us for decades. My fiancé and I were talking about Aziz Ansari last night, and how his “sexual-encounter” with “Grace” seemed like it fell into this murky, gray area where some people think it was […]
No one expects Ansari to be a mind reader. No one is. But the only reason not to ask a woman for her consent before initiating sex is because you’re afraid she’ll say no. Like most of the internet, I read Grace’s story about Aziz Ansari over the weekend. My Twitter feed was full of […]
Why do people in the 21st century have to work so much harder to find a spouse? Why can’t we just marry the guy or girl who lives down the street? In his book, Modern Romance, comedian Aziz Ansari describes texting a woman named Tanya and asking her for a date. A few minutes later, […]
I think men can be most effective by working as feminism’s silent partners. Years ago, when I was shopping around for a new tattoo, I was laboring my options, as I wanted it to be that perfect synthesis of personal importance, awesome political declaration, and cool-looking art. One possibility I immediately clung to was getting […]
Marriage is something I’ve been taught to believe in, and want to believe in, but maybe believing in it is kind of useless. In his special, comedian Aziz Ansari wonders what it would be like to propose to a woman if there was no such thing as the institution of marriage. He asks his pretend ladylove if […]
