This week’s roundup of our favorites from across the interwebs to help you make sense of men and women. 1. The M.R.S. and the Ph.D. by Stephanie Coontz of The New York Times says for women seeking a satisfying relationship and a secure financial future, there has never been a better time to be highly […]
This article originally appeared on Fem2.0. A slightly different version republished here with permission. I’m not really the dating type. I find first dates to be far more fun to prepare for and obsess over than I do to actually go on. Which is funny, because I do love going out. But I love comfort. […]
They say that there’s a match for everyone online, but what about those who don’t fit under the conventional categories? Every straight man can find a woman, every gay man can find another gay man, every woman can find their preference, and every divorcee can find someone who understands what they’re going through. But when […]
This originally appeared at In Our Words: A Salon for Queers & Co. Republished here with permission. Dana Norris went on 71 internet dates in the space of two years. This is the first one. It’s 8 p.m. on a Friday evening and I’m sitting at a bar, alone. “Barracuda” is playing on the jukebox and […]
Valentine’s Day is a lot like New Years Eve, in the sense that for those who buy the hype, it never measures up. As many anti V-Day proselytizers point out, the holiday has become a consumerist hoax, pressuring coupled folks to buy each other expensive boxed chocolates, flowers, jewelry, and lingerie and willingly partake in […]
What if I don’t get any cards? It’s been nearly 35 years since I was last in elementary school, but I can still remember the anxiety that accompanied the February 14ths of my childhood. Though the practice has ended in many American schools, when I was growing up students were expected to give a Valentine’s […]
Let me say up front that I’m all for questioning cultural norms around gender and sexuality. I’m certainly not going to have a “normal” Valentine’s Day. My sex-positive film series here in Chicago always happens on the second Tuesday of the month, and this month that happens to be V-Day—so on the 14th, I’ll be screening a […]
My inbox has been filled with emails with “romantic” in the subject line—lots of deals on dinners for two, flower delivery, wine tastings, and couples massages. Then there are all the things I need to be doing to look my best for the big day: blowouts, manicures, massages, etc. Ugh. It’s Valentine’s Day again. I hate V-day, […]
This originally appeared on ThoughtCatalog.com. Republished here with permission. All I’ve wanted to do this past week is take Cynthia Nixon out, buy her a cappuccino and a scone, and spend an hour or so commiserating over how awful people can be. On January 19, Nixon, best known for playing Miranda on Sex and the […]
When it comes to sexual relationships between minors and adults, those who say “age is just a number” are usually trying to justify the indefensible. On the other hand, it defies everything we’re learning about adolescent development to say that an 18 year-old guy and a 40-something man should always be punished equally for a […]
“Childfree” is defined by Wikipedia as thus: “… ’voluntary childlessness’ is a form of childlessness. The term was coined in the English language late in the 20th century and is used to describe people who have made a personal decision not to have children… The meaning of the term childfree extends to encompass the children […]
I’m a single 32-year-old woman with no kids. I’m going to pause for a second to let that sink in, and to let you think about the images and feelings that spring to mind when you hear that phrase. Pop culture would tell us that I am either: Standing in a leopard print dress at […]
