Infidelity is corrosive not only in how it eats away at any future but how it also eats up the past. …And after the first minute, when I say, Is this about her, and he says, No, it’s about you, we do not speak of her. — “Unspeakable,” Sharon Olds How do you get over […]
While there are broad aspects of male privilege that male children may experience, there is a high price to pay for being bad at being a boy. Recently, in an auto parts store in Columbus, Ohio, I was called a “faggot” for the first time as a newly out, non-binary femme. I am a 600-pound […]
In my mother’s mind, there was always room for improvement. Feeling guilty has been a predominant theme in my life. As a child, I learned to feel guilty about eating, ashamed about my body and, for some reason, responsible for my family’s collective happiness. I often felt at fault; just in the wrong somehow. This […]
Mainstream media would have you believe that eating disorders are a white-woman problem. When I was in elementary school, I started dieting. I’d drink my mother’s protein shakes and eat off-brand, low-fat frozen entrees. In seventh grade, I decided I just wouldn’t eat at all. It worked for a while, but by high school I realized I […]
How dare you take my running, this thing that has put me back into my body again, and use it to try and claim my body as yours? On Saturday, not for the first time, my dad offers to buy me a gun. I’m still in my running gear, sitting on my bed, certain I’m […]
How can moms help their daughters feel good about their bodies, especially at this time of year when we are all bombarded with diet and weight loss ads? ‘Tis the season to bash our bodies in front of our daughters, talking obsessively about how many pounds we’ve gained over the holidays and the urgent need […]
This originally appeared on The Manifest-Station. Republished here with permission. Eating is not something to be ashamed of. As I was standing in line at Trader Joe’s yesterday, minding my own sweet business, I opened a package of dried seaweed (the new wasabi kind which is very, very spicy). An older (very much older, like […]
This originally appeared on Manifest-Station. Republished here with permission. Note: Sensitive material contained in this piece. Mention of sexual assault. If I had told that guy I didn’t want to sit on his lap, or I had yelled at that man to let go of my chest, then I would have lost them, and in […]
