We are already so hard on women, and women are so hard on themselves. We shouldn’t set them up to feel like any birth that ends in a healthy child is a failure. When I found out I was pregnant I immediately started making my birth plan. I planned on giving birth in a hospital, but […]
Diving into birth plans and decision making just seems like willingly wading into a deep sea of misdirects, social pressure, and manipulation. And in a society that too often prioritizes the fetus over the mother, it’s hard to know who to trust. I sighed as my obstetrician tried to explain my newly diagnosed gestational diabetes. […]
The last thing we need is one more thing to feel inadequate about, one more thing to feel like we’re doing “wrong” when it comes to having a baby. I looked at the sample birth plan my midwife handed to us with a furrowed brow. It was six pages long and had questions I hadn’t […]
The goal should not be to steel myself; not to cage my body in armor, but to surround myself with padding and supports. It always starts the same way: Just when I think I’m fine, the rushing in my ears begins, as though I’m swept up in a strong wind. Lost at the end of […]
