For those considering IVF, much like becoming a parent, nothing can prepare you for this journey and everyone’s journey is different. For the first year of my child’s cellular existence, he lived in a deep freezer. We let him multiply a bit, and then stuck him in like a Klondike bar. Don’t worry, he wasn’t […]
Everyone will have an opinion on your birth plan and won’t let something like not having a medical degree stand in the way of giving it to you. Before getting pregnant, I viewed pregnancy the same way I viewed the gluten-free: something other people did and were smug-annoying about. Things I wish I’d known: 1. […]
What if there’s a way to be a selfless mother while still retaining access to that deep space from which we create? The space where you are not your gender, your role, your obligation, but simply human and able to let your imagination run freely? I found out I was pregnant the same day a […]
Your friend, sister, or sister-in-law wants to have a child and her best chance is through egg donor IVF. Do you do it? It’s a question you don’t often ask yourself, but when you do the internal debate can last a long time. A friend is infertile, they have had nine cycles of IVF, they […]
Through the fog of my grief, I discovered that pregnancy loss is like a secret society you never asked to join. You don’t realize how many members there are until you become one of them. There are some questions almost too big to answer. Or too loaded. “How many times have you been pregnant?” is […]
Queer parents and anyone who uses non-traditional methods to build families, whether that means sperm or egg donation, IVF, surrogacy, or adoption, complicate the question of what it means to be a parent, what it means to be a family, what it means to be a mother. I have never wanted to give birth. I […]
