Sexuality is fluid—and not just for women. When a woman kisses another woman in a bar, no one immediately labels her as gay. It’s simply thought of as “hot.” But if a straight guy kisses another guy in any way that could possibly be described as sexual, he’s thought of as gay or bi, or in total denial of […]
We tried to love beyond gender, and hit the wall. On our first OKCupid-initiated date, Ryan* and I timidly gazed at each other across a cafe table, punctuating the silence with sips of lattes. But by the time the discussion escalated to our common childhood spiritual obsessions, it was as if we had known each […]
While finding a partner can be challenging for bisexual women, once they’re in relationships, there’s pressure to play down their bi-ness in order to be taken seriously as a partner. In the new film Appropriate Behavior, bisexual protagonist Shirin—played by writer/director Desiree Akhavan—has a conversation with her brother about her romantic life that goes like this: […]
Comments such as “the girls don’t stand a chance” or “the ladies better look out” about my 8-month-old son make me feel incredibly uncomfortable. If I had a dime for every time a person, often a stranger, said something to the effect of “the girls don’t stand a chance with those eyes” about my son, […]
There is no right or wrong way to be queer. Last week, in a piece for Salon, writer EJ Levy detailed her rare and inverted “coming out” story as a lesbian who married a man. Lesbian, readers cried, You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means. Among the […]
