Sometimes, staying together means rewriting the rules of marriage. I wish I didn’t need sex. That I didn’t crave it. That the longing for it didn’t make me restless, and going without it didn’t make me grouchy. Sometimes, I wish I could see celibacy as my calling. That way, I could find a way to extricate my […]
This medication may not work. But to denounce the very idea of it is to deny women’s basic nature as sexual beings. This week I have been barraged by well-meaning people who are telling the world just how much they believe that the new medication for women’s primary sexual dysfunction, hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD), […]
Many adult children of abusers continue to deal with ongoing abuse long after we have reached the age of maturity. The first time I became aware of adult children being abused by their parents was when I went on my fifth date with Ken, a guy I met when I was in Bible college. I […]
It is not our job to make our kids happy. It is our job to be there for them no matter how they feel. A few days ago, a friend posted this question on Facebook: If you could go back in time and tell your younger self just one thing, where would you go, and […]
Since we have been thwarted in our attempts to stop mass shootings, we need to start figuring out how to minimize their damage. By eerie coincidence, the 204th mass shooting in the United States this year happened on the 204th day of the year. For every time the sun rose over America, there has been one incident […]
It is time for women to stop assuming that the way men speak and conduct business is the right way to do it. Since we are not the problem, maybe we are not the ones who need to change. “Thank you for calling GrubHub customer care team” a friendly and informal female voice greets me […]
Not all divorces are failures. Some are diplomas. They are evidence that we showed up, we learned something, and that now it is time to move on. This week brought us another “failed” celebrity marriage: Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck are divorcing after 10 years of marriage. And, according to my Facebook feed, lots of people have […]
I find it ridiculous that patients are sent home from surgery with instructions about pooping and bathing, but nothing about the potential emotional complications of surgery. Just when you thought Caitlyn Jenner couldn’t be a better role model or teach us more, she slipped an important side note into her Vanity Fair debut. In the interview, […]
According to the Duggars’ beliefs, the ethic of consent does not carry any serious moral weight. In fact, failure to gain consent can be seen as sparing the other person since you are not leading them into the sin of sexual desire. To bring those of you who have been cozily ensconced under a rock […]
The evening’s theme was ‘China: Into The Looking Glass,’ so where were all the Chinese designers on the red carpet? “Where were all the Chinese designers?” This great question was asked by Caroly Asame in her analysis of the dresses worn by patrons at the Metropolitan Museum’s annual gala. Like many of us, Asame thought that […]
You can’t just be “somewhat” racist. This week, Robyn Pennacchia at the Frisky asked an extremely important question. I am sure she meant it to be rhetorical, but her question needs to be answered, and those of us who advocate for social justice need to hear that answer. “What the fuck is it with people […]
I had been waiting my whole life to meet this man, and I knew with absolute certainty that I wanted to have him as a part of my daily life forever. Genetic Sexual Attraction (GSA). There wasn’t a word for it back when I first met my father, Jackson. Until very recently, memories of our […]
