Ozy Frantz offers 11 ways men can be better allies to women, including learning a few things about gender, challenging their female friends, and supporting a woman’s bodily autonomy. 1) Educate yourself. One summer, in high school, I literally read every book the library had about feminism. You don’t have to go that far, but […]
Hugo Schwyzer says white male privilege is partly to blame for both the location and the scale of the recent Aurora, Colorado movie theater murders. Are white men particularly prone to carrying out the all-too-familiar mass killings of which last week’s Aurora shooting is just the latest iteration? Is there something about the white, male, […]
Can a self-admitted promiscuous douchebag “settle down,” commit to one woman, and possibly start a family? Mark Manson certainly hopes so. I’m not sure exactly when it happened, if it was a specific moment or a subtle, unconscious desire that slowly crept up on me. There was no great, inspiring event or eye-opening moment. I […]
Lynn Beisner wonders if the men who say they like to cuddle are simply doing it to please their wives or girlfriends. In Harris O’Malley’s article debunking the idea that women do not want sex, titled “It’s OK To Want Sex,” he examines one half of our culture’s myth “that men and women are diametrically […]
Does a fast-paced dancing-based workout class make the man who enjoys it any less manly? Absolutely not, says Emily Rapp, who has found a male friend for life on the sweat-filled dance floor. I am a self-anointed gym rat. Although I live in Santa Fe, a city famous for its year-round accessibility to outdoor recreational […]
Juliet Kelso dissects a YouTube video that begs the question: Can men and women ever be equal if women aren’t allowed to take their tops off in public? The popular YouTube video titled “Why Men and Women Can Never Be Equal” involves a man and a woman mimicking one another on the metro. They are […]
Jenn Leyva’s really into “girly men.” Not just because they can appreciate her glitter nail polish, but because they’re not afraid to challenge traditional gender roles. The current New York Times Room For Debate asks if modern men are manly enough. Lots of people seem to be up in arms about men using moisturizer. I […]
Chanel Dubofsky says enough with the “enoughness” questions surrounding gender roles. The New York Times Room for Debate topic this past week invited folks to weigh in on the question of “Are Modern Men Manly Enough,” and frankly, I can’t believe we’re still asking this. The concept of evolving gender roles remains so threatening that […]
In response to The New York Times “Are Modern Men Manly Enough,” Abigail Collazo asserts that rather than debating what a “real man” or woman looks like, we should focus on just being better people instead. This weekend’s New York Times “Room for Debate” asks whether today’s men are “manly enough”: “A-list actors are getting facials in […]
Originally appeared on Kiki & Tea. Republished here with permission. When I was in my early 20s I would regularly visit brothels or use the services of escorts. I was first encouraged to visit sex workers by a female friend of mine. She knew I was going through a dry period and one of her […]
In response to a recent article in the Pacific Standard, Ozy Frantz offers suggestions on how to get more men the help they need from therapy. The recent “Aversion to Therapy: Why Won’t Men Get Help” article by Betsy Bates Freed and David Freed in the Pacific Standard outlines fairly well the core problem of […]
When will more men step up to claim more responsibility at home? When the men who have already done so lead the way, says Hugo Schwyzer. After several weeks of discussion of Anne-Marie Slaughter’s Why Women Still Can’t Have it All, the focus has—belatedly—shifted to men. As Jessica Valenti wrote in The Nation, the “not […]
