Andrew Smiler discusses the importance of men asking for help, and why “going it alone” can only do harm. Men don’t seek therapy as often as they probably should. That’s not exactly surprising: In stereotype and caricature, we make fun of men’s unwillingness to ask for directions, to read the manual, or to call for […]
Lynn Beisner shares Joey’s trials at home, a resentful husband who says he’s tired of working for “the man” all day then coming home to work for “the wife.” Joey is one of several conservative men that I have been interviewing about how they interpret their role as father. “The real problem is The List!” […]
Owen Marcus explores the benefits of men and women forming micro-communities, and shares how our ancestors got it right. We work hard in order to own more, do more, and be more. Much of the reason we don’t feel we have what we really want is because we are looking in the wrong place. The […]
Hugo Schwyzer discusses how sex, class, and ethnicity influence how we argue. As anyone who’s ever been in a serious relationship can tell you, one near-certain source of conflict comes from the simple truth that thanks to our experiences, we all see the world slightly differently. That’s obvious enough. But do women’s experiences—as women—give them […]
This week’s roundup of our favorites from across the interwebs to help you make sense of men and women. 1. The Upside to All the Online Chatter About ‘Girls’ by Rolf Potts of The Atlantic says the debate about Lena Dunham’s HBO comedy is more varied and sophisticated than cultural conversations of 20 years ago. […]
Judith Rosenbaum’s father didn’t preach about being feminist, he lived it, and it is through his example that Judith learned what a truly egalitarian partnership looks like. I call myself a second-generation feminist, and when I do so, I’m thinking of my mom. A pioneer of the Second Wave, a path-breaking women’s historian, and a […]
Ken Miller is a stay-at-home dad, and was unable to open a credit account at Target because he doesn’t have an income. So his wife had to open it for him. Has anyone heard of the Credit CARD Act of 2009? It’s a federal law, backed up by a number of regulations, that changed many things, […]
The latest incident of a female teacher sexually involved with her male student came out just last week, but it’s not as clear-cut as some previous scandals. Hugo Schwyzer takes a look at the facts and suggests that the victimizer in this case may also be the victim. Since the Mary Kay Letourneau-Vili Fualaau story […]
This originally appeared on Undercover In The Suburbs. Republished here with permission. This is my response to this post entitled 10 Things Guys Should Do On a First Date that my brother brought to my attention. I want to publicly say that this post and the millions of posts like it on the Internet, written by both […]
A stay-at-home dad, Ken Miller hated it when someone at his wife’s corporate functions would ask “What do you do?” until he got some good advice from another party frequenter. The first time I heard it was around 2000, about two or three years after I’d stopped working to stay home for our two kids. […]
This week’s roundup of our favorites from across the interwebs to help you make sense of men and women. 1. Five Myths About Marriage by Stephanie Coontz of The Washington Post asks: Is marriage really better for the community? 2. S/He by Jesse Green of New York Magazine says parents of transgender children are faced […]
What scares Hugo Schwyzer the most about raising his newborn son is that one day he might repeat the terrible gendered mistakes of his father. “It’s a boy!” cried the doula, as our infant son slid out of my wife’s body. David Aneurin Nikola Schwyzer, our second child, was born earlier this month—and until that […]
