Getting married in midlife means facing loss sooner than most couples. It was a colleague, a 27-year-old whose sweet and hopeful wedding I’d attended just a few weeks earlier, who put it so directly. We were in the car, driving past the heart hospital, when I mentioned sitting in the courtyard while my husband had […]
This week’s roundup of our favorites from across the interwebs to help you make sense of men and women. 1. Can A Kids’ Toy Bring More Women Into Engineering? by Rebecca Rosen of The Atlantic says: Meet GoldieBlox, the lady engineer who hopes to unseat the princesses from their toy-store thrones. 2. The Unbridled Shower: […]
Having kids changes everything, but in a loveless marriage, kids could signal the beginning of the end. The day my daughter was conceived, I knew the love in my relationship was gone. We weren’t trying to get pregnant on that day. It was one of those rare pre-cum moments. We never even completed the act. […]
Originally appeared in On The Issues Magazine. Republished here with permission. One highlight of Election Day 2012: voters in Maryland, Washington, and Maine deciding, with their ballots, whether people in same-sex relationships will be allowed to marry. Black voters in those states—especially Maryland, which is nearly one-third African-American—may need to take cover. We know about […]
For someone opposed to tradition for tradition’s sake, an engagement ring (and all its symbolic history) is on the bottom of Emily Heist Moss’ list of must-haves. My Facebook feed has been hijacked by engagement announcements. In a few years, I know the profile pictures of ring fingers will be replaced by ultrasounds followed by […]
This originally appeared on Kristin Maschka’s blog. Republished here with permission. I am so fed up with advice from people telling women that if they just make the right personal choices at the right time in the right order then there is no problem fitting career, marriage, and kids into our lives. That’s a load […]
Suzanne Turner offers her analysis of Hanna Rosin’s new controversial book, The End of Men (and the Rise of Women). Despite being a self-avowed feminist, I didn’t know my sons and I were living on the bleeding experimental edge of feminism until I read Hanna Rosin’s excellent new book The End of Men (and the Rise […]
This originally appeared on The Good Men Project. Republished here with permission. The other night a friend of mine confessed he was thinking of getting a divorce. After hearing his reasons why and finding them plausible, I bluntly asked him what was holding him back. “Really?” he barked. “Because I don’t want to ruin my […]
As new parents, Laurie Cunningham and her husband are bickering more than before the baby. So is the key to a successful marriage staying childless? A week before my one-year wedding anniversary, I emailed a friend who had been married many more years than I had. “Is it true?” I asked. “Is it true that […]
Waking up to your long-term partner and asking yourself “How the hell did I end up with this asshole?” doesn’t necessarily mean you’re with the wrong person. It means you’re in a relationship, and relationships are hard. A few years back my husband and I went away for the weekend with another couple. We’ll call […]
Originally appeared on From Two To One. Republished here with permission. Though American I have been living in England the past year and am marrying a Scot. After having moved here from New York City where it is quite common for women to keep their last names, it has been overwhelming to experience the strong […]
In light of Mark Sanford’s announced plans to marry his longtime mistress, Hugo Schwyzer asks: Is it wrong to rejoice in their union? Cheaters never prosper, the saying goes. But what happens when they do? Should we rejoice with them? Those old questions are worth asking again with the news that former South Carolina governor […]
