This week’s roundup of our favorites from across the interwebs to help you make sense of men and women. 1. Why The GOP Can’t Win Over The Single Ladies by Hanna Rosin of Slate.com says for weeks before the convention we’d been hearing about how Mitt Romney was set to endear himself to women and […]
Originally appeared on Small Strokes Fell Big Oaks. Republished here with permission. I’ve been musing a bit about last names recently, probably because I’m gearing up for another school year where I will be referred to solely as my last name for the next nine months. I actually enjoy this. It allows me to code-switch […]
Does staying in a marriage for your partner’s healthcare benefits mean you’re using your partner? Or are you giving up your soul just to stay healthy? My friend Laurie got married a couple of months ago. I did not send her a present or even a card. In fact, the only thing I gave her […]
Relationships are hard, but they’re hard for everyone, not just you. Therapist Lyla Cicero offers her advice on how to have realistic expectations of your partner and your partnership, and how to help others in the process. 1) Act How You Feel (Within Reason): We’ve all been around those couples bickering violently in public or […]
Ashley Lauren Samsa bought CDs to commemorate the end of a relationship with old boyfriends. She answers why she’s kept those CDs all these years. When I was packing my things to move in with my husband, I came across an old shoebox underneath my bed at my mom’s house, where I had moved back […]
Marriage isn’t just about making each other happy, it’s about making each other better people. Eric Sentell discusses families of origin, engaging the “crazy cycle,” and navigating conflict in a marriage. The real wonder is not how hard marriage proves to be after the honeymoon wears off, but rather that it is manageable at all. […]
Kate McGuinness married four different men all of whom had the characteristics of her mother or father. Why do so many people repeat the same mistakes? Our early childhood plays a major role in our choice of romantic partners. Dr. Harville Hendrix theorizes that “We marry the emotional image of our caregivers—both positive and […]
This was originally posted at From Two To One as part of the Last Name Project. Republished here with permission. Choosing a last name ended up meaning more to me than I thought it would. Wrapped up in this question were a host of social issues I was used to examining from afar, through hypothetical theories […]
This was originally posted at From Two To One as part of the Last Name Project. Republished here with permission. Although I am not married, I have spent years thinking about whether I am going to keep my name when I do get married. For most of my life, aesthetic has been the primary deciding point […]
Navigating her new role as a wife, feminist Ashley Lauren Samsa finally figured out that cleaning your house doesn’t automatically make you June Cleaver. The personal is political. As a feminist, this has been my mantra for years, so when I decided to get married, I wanted my marriage to reflect what an equal partnership […]
This was originally posted at From Two To One as part of the Last Name Project. Republished here with permission. I grew up in a family where all the women changed their names at marriage (for some this meant changing it multiple times). My mother changed her name when she married my father and changed it […]
Chanel Dubofsky says punishing people for having opinions is a way to silence them, and she will not be silenced. Recently I wrote a piece about how happiness is a complex expectation, especially when it comes to things like weddings and babies. It resulted in a lot of conversation among my friends (and their friends, […]
