This article originally appeared in April 2010 on ClarisseThorn.com. Republished here with permission. Polyamory is a form of consensual non-monogamy in which people have multiple lovers, and are honest with each other about doing so. I have a lot more theoretical exposure to polyamory than personal experience, but I’ve been gaining more personal experience over […]
The Role Roundtable is a collaboration between Role/Reboot and the Good Men Project. Nicole: Women have a relatively limited fertility window and men don’t. This seems to create a tricky imbalance for many men and women. Do you think men have any responsibility to work with the timeframe of their female peers? Hugo: To be […]
This article originally appeared on The Good Men Project. Republished here with permission. Hugo Schwyzer tries to discern why even after several failed relationships with lesbians or lesbian types, his heart still flutters around short hair and strong jaws. I enjoyed reading last week’s A Girl Who Likes Boys Who Like Boys: The Joy of […]
This article originally appeared on CNN Opinion. Republished here with permission. Why is having an affair worse than being a sexual harasser? Why does a woman’s claim that she had a 13-year extramarital romance with Herman Cain seem to be more deadly to his Republican presidential campaign than accusations by several other women that he […]
This post was originally published on The Good Men Project. Republished with permission. Nicole Johnson argues that societal tropes of masculine strength and perseverance obscure the fact that emotional damage can destroy a man. I have been the beneficiary of magnificent male mentors. From dating tips to elevator pitches, I have received outstanding advice from men. […]
This was originally published on October 28 over at Clarisse Thorn: Pro-Sex Outreach, Open-Minded Feminism. Okay, so. Since I am a Feminist Commentator™, many folks have asked my opinion on a piece that recently ran in “The Atlantic” called “All The Single Ladies,” by Kate Bolick. Many of you have probably already seen Bolick’s piece […]
I like to cook and my fiancée, De’Anna, loves to watch NHL games. It’s funny, she doesn’t really know how to cook and I can count on one hand how many times I’ve tuned in to watch dudes skate, slap a puck, and punch each other bloody. It’s quite fun to be the man who […]
This piece was originally published at the Good Men Project. Republished with permission. I was a fifty-fifty child. After the divorce, my parents divided custody down the middle; my younger brother and I migrated like clockwork between their homes every three and a half days. It was logistically exhausting—which house are my cleats at? Where’s […]
(Disclaimer: This post is about my feeling towards white gowns and traditional weddings. It is not my intention to judge anybody else’s decision about what they get married in and how they do it. I’ve actually been to half a dozen of traditional weddings I utterly enjoyed and adored the brides involved). I first stopped […]
There are days when I’m amazed at how easy it is to change the world. Those are the days when my kids accept as fact the things I tell them about how the world works (or, perhaps more accurately, how it should work). Statements that might sound strange or jarring to someone who has been […]
Scene 1 Who: One of my best female friends and me– we’ve known each other for since we were kids. Where: A café in central Warsaw. What: I mention the word ‘naked’ in a conversation. A few minutes later, she asks if we could leave and go for a walk. It’s a cold December evening […]
When the New York Times recently asked “Are You as Fertile as You Look?” the question was rhetorical. The reporter suggested womenfolk are ignorant about their declining fertility because they confuse youthful looks with having youthful ovaries. It’s easy to judge women like the ones trotted out for this piece; in their late 30s through […]
