The last thing we need is one more thing to feel inadequate about, one more thing to feel like we’re doing “wrong” when it comes to having a baby. I looked at the sample birth plan my midwife handed to us with a furrowed brow. It was six pages long and had questions I hadn’t […]
We shouldn’t disguise such loaded, difficult questions as small talk. I work for a fairly big organization and live in a fairly small town, so naturally I became used to prying, personal questions disguised as small talk. Most of the time, they seemed fairly simple on the surface. “So, how’s married life?” I have a […]
I was speechless. How to explain to this stranger my reasons for making my son an only child? And did I even need to explain my reasons to this virtual stranger? “How old is your son?” “He’s 5.” “When are you having another?” “We’re not.” “Why not?” “We’re blessed with Ryan.” “No. He needs to […]
Mind your own business. And let my daughter—and every female out there—mind her own business. In 1992, I was a divorced single mom, betrothed to a sweet man who did not have a biological child of his own. He knew I was worn down after a divorce, which left me with few resources (financial and physical), […]
