Waiting a year sounds good in theory, but love and attraction are not things anyone can plan for. Dating for recovering addicts presents a different set of challenges that people without a substance abuse problem don’t necessarily experience. Addict or not, anyone who is single can attest to the fact that dating can be a […]
Trying to keep up appearances to myself, I never drank before 5pm. Except when I did. CN: alcoholism, addiction The kiss lingers. Not because of the man, but rather because he hadn’t swallowed his last sip of bourbon. He’s a lip kisser. But this was more—drops of smoky liquid passing from his lips to mine. […]
People don’t have to be scarred for life—or scarred at all—for bodily violations to be morally wrong or assailants to be held accountable. As a mother of two daughters, and as a psychologist who has experienced sexual assault, I find myself troubled by some of the language that feminist women (like me) and progressive allies […]
Being labeled “dramatic” served not only to shut down my ability to talk about my traumas, but enabled my parents to deny they ever happened. (Trigger warning for rape.) There is no trauma so devastating that a dose of familial guilt cannot make it worse. My sister called me at work late on a Friday […]
Women are told that they could have prevented the rape by wearing more modest clothing or not walking alone late at night. Men are told that there wasn’t a rape to prevent. My student stood braced against the wooden podium at the front of our public speaking classroom and, with a deep breath, addressed the […]
