This post originally appeared on The Good Men Project. Republished with permission. In my previous column critiquing Catherine Hakim’s celebration of women’s erotic capital, I shared an anecdote about a student whom I called “Allee.” Allee was a young woman who could have been one of Hakim’s disciples, and in my previous piece, I shared the story […]
This post originally appeared on Strong Men Speak. Republished with permission. In the Boston College Center for Work & Family study The New Dad: Caring Committed and Conflicted we asked fathers how much time they had taken away from work after the birth of their most recent child. More that three-quarters of fathers in the study took […]
The post originally appeared on the Good Men Project. Republished with permission. Never mind your tanking 401K or the astronomical price of gold. How’s your erotic capital? According to Catherine Hakim, a professor at the London School of Economics, erotic capital is a combination of “beauty, social skills, good dress sense, physical fitness, liveliness, sex […]
This post originally appeared on the Women’s Media Center. Republished with permission. The author, a nationally recognized authority on the choices women make as they age, analyzes a new study that tracks an unrealistic and stressful standard of perfection for men. In 1963 Betty Friedan’s Feminine Mystique identified The Problem That Has No Name—a soul-destroying malaise and […]
This post originally appeared on the Huffington Post and New Deal 2.0. Republished with permission. When Sekiko Garrison told former boss Michael Bloomberg she was pregnant, his answer was simple: “Kill it.” Allowing mothers flexible work arrangements, he commented, was like allowing a man time off to practice his golf swing. The CEO who took over when […]
Yesterday, I was running late for a meeting in downtown Washington DC when I saw a homeless man lying on the street with his hands down his pants, appearing to do things that should be done in private. I found a female police officer and mentioned the man to her, also noting that he needed […]
As a feminist, I sometimes bristle at my own attitudes and expectations when it comes to certain things. Case in point: how it feels to be the primary breadwinner in my little family. To clarify and provide a bit of context, my “little family” consists of me and my fiancé, who is in the process […]
I’m a member of a small, but increasing minority: the stay-at-home father. Like stay-at-home mothers always have, I’ve put aside my professional ambitions and earning power to be the primary caregiver for our children. I’m not saying that I would change that. I really love my kids and wouldn’t trade places with anyone in the […]
Quick, what does a professor look like? Apparently not like me. I’m 5’3″, brown-skinned, and a woman. I still get ID’d at the liquor store and I have a modest tattoo collection. One of my greatest personal challenges (and annoyances) is how often people of all ages, backgrounds, and educational levels cannot seem to wrap […]
I had a conversation this week with a mom who told me that her 13-year-old daughter was sick and would need a daylong series of tests to figure out what was wrong. The story came up because she scheduled the test on a day when her husband (and father of her daughter) couldn’t make it. […]
Poking around Role/Reboot yesterday, I came across Hugo Schwyzer and Emily Heist Moss’s debate “Who Pays?”, which asked if men should foot the bill on a first date. In responding “yes,” Schwyzer explains that because men, on average, make more money than women it is appropriate for the man to pay. I found his reasoning […]
Excerpted from Undecided, Seal Press, copyright 2011 by Barbara Kelley and Shannon Kelley. Commitment phobia. Analysis paralysis. Grass-is-greener syndrome. You name it, women today are plagued by it. Unlike our mothers, these women were born of a generation blessed with limitless choices — a generation that’s found that the more choices we have, the harder it […]
