Maybe it’s the romantic in me, but I’m one of those people who loves a wedding. Having had two of my own and attended my fair share, I get a kick out of them. There’s always a couple in love, vows being exchanged, rings on fingers, and a gorgeous dress. Yet, while a wedding ideally […]
This post originally appeared on The Good Men Project. Republished with permission. In my previous column critiquing Catherine Hakim’s celebration of women’s erotic capital, I shared an anecdote about a student whom I called “Allee.” Allee was a young woman who could have been one of Hakim’s disciples, and in my previous piece, I shared the story […]
This post was originally published on Wonderfully Made. Republished with permission. There he goes. He’s texting me again. I thought I was done with this. I promised myself that I would stop this text-relationship. I vowed to only go on real dates with real men, real men who live in my real life! It’s been […]
Women expect more from their husbands than ever before. The days of us husbands putting our feet up or refusing to share our feelings are long gone. Though we acknowledge this shift, we struggle to adapt to these new expectations since we lack role models for doing so. When I talk to other young married […]
This post was originally published on the Good Men Project. Republished with permission. Mark D. White wrote a post today that gives an honest look at a guy struggling to understand a woman’s relationship to beauty, and how he, as a guy, should talk to her about it. Compliment her looks? Her intelligence? But why—when the […]
This post originally appeared on the Good Men Project. Republished with permission. Once upon a time, I was in a relationship with a woman who was the most brilliant, creative, and driven person I’d ever known. I told her these things often because she didn’t see herself this way, despite achieving tremendous success and acclaim […]
This post was originally published on the Good Men Project. Republished with permission. Last month, Mark D. White made some good points about how a professional woman may view, judge, and even castigate a man who does not share the same professional status, particularly when she makes more money than he does. Though it seemed over-simplified and […]
I have always disliked being approached by men in bars. Cheesy pick-up lines that I might otherwise find marginally amusing somehow become creepy in the low light, screamed over the deep pulse of bass-heavy music. I don’t appreciate that a night out dancing inevitably means that some dude is going to come up behind me […]
This post was originally published at HyperVocal. I never thought I would be single with no children at 35. I was ready to marry my first boyfriend Mike when I was 15 and lost my virginity to him. As a Catholic, I convinced myself that as long as I married him, it was okay to […]
As a feminist, I sometimes bristle at my own attitudes and expectations when it comes to certain things. Case in point: how it feels to be the primary breadwinner in my little family. To clarify and provide a bit of context, my “little family” consists of me and my fiancé, who is in the process […]
This post is Part 2 of a series exploring partnership and independence on the highways of America. You can read Part 1 here. The trailhead of my existence is much different than my current self. That’s a fact. For the last 15 years of my life, I’ve lived in some big, fancy-pants cities, full of […]
Poking around Role/Reboot yesterday, I came across Hugo Schwyzer and Emily Heist Moss’s debate “Who Pays?”, which asked if men should foot the bill on a first date. In responding “yes,” Schwyzer explains that because men, on average, make more money than women it is appropriate for the man to pay. I found his reasoning […]
