Role Reboot

Dear Dana: How Do I Convince My Girlfriend That I Want To Marry Her, Just Not Now?

Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana, I’m in a four-year long relationship with my girlfriend and we recently just moved in together. A […]

Dear Dana: My Husband And I Can’t Stop Fighting About Money

Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana, My husband and I fight about money all of the time. When we first got together he […]

The Shame Of Financial Struggle

Shame. It may be the single most corrosive force of our time. When my husband and I were in our final year of the MFA program where we met, we were each responsible for producing a book-length thesis. Jason and I had started dating in our first year and moved in together quickly, realizing that […]

Why I’d Rather Splurge A Little Today Than Save For The Future

The social stigma of spending money, particularly when you’re not wealthy and especially on “non-essential” items has a note of arrogance to it. It believes the future is an equitable given. When I was 12, my mother liquidated my modest college fund so that we could buy a 23-year-old ex-racehorse named Fancy. No, this wasn’t […]

I Feel Guilty For Not Being The Breadwinner

This originally appeared on Dame Magazine. Republished here with permission. Having a precarious income feels like I’m failing at being a modern woman, the kind who is strong and powerful and, most importantly, can support herself. When I first started dating my boyfriend in January 2012, I made more than him—and I liked it that […]

Husbands Are Happiest When Wives Earn As Much (Or More) Money

This originally appeared on The Frisky. Republished here with permission. Couples with higher-earning wives also reported the best sex lives. A wife bringing home the bacon isn’t the death knoll of a relationship that it has been made out to be. According to a new survey of 1,000 married couples over age 25 by MONEY magazine, husbands […]