A recent article by “sexuality counselor” Ian Kerner begins with a premise that will likely get your hackles up: “In a committed relationship nothing hurts more, or is harder to recover from, than infidelity, and this is even truer when it’s the female partner who’s been doing the cheating”(emphasis added). Why? Because according to Kerner, […]
From The Good Men Project, this is a fascinating article on pick up artistry, including a primer on what it is. Since I first learned about Neil Strauss’ book, The Game, I’ve been fascinated by the industry that sprung up around training men on how to successfully seduce women and (ultimately) get laid. But I […]
First, I would like to submit this article for the “best title ever” award. Kudos Tracy Clark-Flory. Moving on. In what I can only imagine is a “duh” type of moment for gay men, it’s seems that many straight guys are also enjoying, um, anal stimulation (aka “pegging”) of some variety or another. Well, that […]
This interview with professor Michael Kimmel is an excellent primer on the “men’s rights” movement – what it is and isn’t, what it’s greviences are, and where it diverges from the “father’s rights” movement and the pro-feminist “men’s liberation” groups. It’s confusing territory, but Kimmel does a wonderful job of disentangling these groups. “Men’s rights” […]
This NYT column by Maureen Dowd has provoked much discussion. Is it really a gender flip that the women wanted us to get involved in Libya when the men resisted? I think too much is made of this. For one thing, the women all invoked humanitarian reasons for involvement while the men resisted for practical […]
We seem to be seeing more writings from men and women where the man is home with children and the woman works. This is a “blip” statistically but I am guessing that these anecdotes will translate into real numbers eventually. I am curious about the underlying assumption in this and other writings that one parent […]
This blog is an interesting reflection on being a feminist written by a man who grew up poor and black. In families where men are absent, women do everything and display their resilience and strength every day. They don’t call themselves feminists but their daily activities send the message that women (rightly or wrongly) are […]
In this post from a University of California student, Kathleen Rosell we get yet another testimonial of how destructive porn can be on a real live intimate relationship. If it is true that more porn leads to expectations of stereotyped female behavior and poorer personal relations, how will this affect long term intimacy and commitment? […]
This is a really interesting discussion and video with Tom Matlock of The Good Men Project on men and guns. I’m a little baffled by it. Maybe women who hold guns also feel powerful and empowered and it is that feeling that is so seductive. I do appreciate Matlock’s honesty as he seems surprised at […]
This article, which reports on a Harvard conference, is a good summary of efforts to empower women across the globe. The importance of male support is stressed but we have learned that this is a pretty difficult proposition. What is so interesting is that the “stages” of empowerment seem to be so similar from country […]
Thank goodness someone finally debunked the “Sexual Strategies Theory” which claims that sexually, we are driven primarily by our desire to pass on our genes, which means men just want to spread their seed far and wide and women are more selective with sexual partners because they’re looking for a man to provide for them […]
I admit it – I’m torn about Dan Abrams new book coming out, which is subtlety titled, Man Down: Proof Beyond a Reasonable Doubt That Women Are Better Cops, Drivers, Gamblers, Spies, World Leaders, Beer Tasters, Hedge Fund Managers, and Just About Everything Else. On the one hand, I applaud Abrams for debunking of some […]
