Does watching porn ruin marriages? Are porn users more likely to have unrealistic expectations of their partners? Do all women hate porn? Do all men love porn? These are all questions Vicki Larson takes on (with only minimal success) in her piece on the Huffington Post. Larson’s piece is problematic, but it does get the […]
Unprotected sex calms a woman more than sex when a condom is used? Who the heck would even think to study this? It reminds me of old psychological studies of women designed to address women’s “hysteria”- then thought to be a widespread problem. The head of a surgeons group then went ahead and wrote an […]
A recent blog post on Psychology Today, Why Feminism is the Anti-Viagra, supposes itself to be an argument about how the freedom and equality for which feminism has fought directly contradicts the wiring of sexual arousal in the brain. That is, women are sexually wired to want dominant men and to be submissive in the […]
Considering how much recent attention has been paid to men’s porn habits and the problems this habit appear to cause for some, it’s perhaps not surprising that – according to this article – women are apparently using more porn, too. Admittedly, the “evidence” cited in the article on women’s increasing porn use is questionable, particularly […]
A recent article by “sexuality counselor” Ian Kerner begins with a premise that will likely get your hackles up: “In a committed relationship nothing hurts more, or is harder to recover from, than infidelity, and this is even truer when it’s the female partner who’s been doing the cheating”(emphasis added). Why? Because according to Kerner, […]
From The Good Men Project, this is a fascinating article on pick up artistry, including a primer on what it is. Since I first learned about Neil Strauss’ book, The Game, I’ve been fascinated by the industry that sprung up around training men on how to successfully seduce women and (ultimately) get laid. But I […]
I found this article really infuriating. Jennifer Moses is upset, but its not clear if she’s upset about girls’ clothing or perceived sexual behaviors, so she just conflates the two. It’s probably fair to say that most of us who are well-beyond our tween/teen years feel uncomfortable when we pass a 12-year-old with full makup, […]
First, I would like to submit this article for the “best title ever” award. Kudos Tracy Clark-Flory. Moving on. In what I can only imagine is a “duh” type of moment for gay men, it’s seems that many straight guys are also enjoying, um, anal stimulation (aka “pegging”) of some variety or another. Well, that […]
In this post from a University of California student, Kathleen Rosell we get yet another testimonial of how destructive porn can be on a real live intimate relationship. If it is true that more porn leads to expectations of stereotyped female behavior and poorer personal relations, how will this affect long term intimacy and commitment? […]
Thank goodness someone finally debunked the “Sexual Strategies Theory” which claims that sexually, we are driven primarily by our desire to pass on our genes, which means men just want to spread their seed far and wide and women are more selective with sexual partners because they’re looking for a man to provide for them […]
How to make sense of all this? We know that trends and opposite counter trends often go together. Most of our postings have documented the pressures brought by pervasive porn and increased sexual behavior of younger people. Now we have data that documents more virginity and also very high rates of oral and anal […]
This is an interesting take on the impact of porn on relationships, from a relationship expert. When it comes to porn, his general rule is simple: less is usually better. Porn is just a fact of life, he argues, but when women start feeling like they have to compete with porn stars to excite their […]
